It was my first Mother’s Day as a mom. What should have been a day filled with fresh flowers, Hallmark, and pampering, I instead spent in the fetal position, sobbing my eyes out. I was giving every bit of energy I had to my son, so that I could smile and act like his usual mommy.
Dear Chrissy: Help! The holidays are turning me into a nervous wreck. Any tips for dealing with it? --- Not So Holly Jolly
Some people get their kicks from reality TV, sky-diving, or venturing out with no cell phone. For me? I like to observe people on dates when sobering up. People watching at its finest.
People engaging in, or recovering from, addictive behaviors have this amazing aptitude to be hard on themselves—to a fault. Sometimes it is called the “Butt (or another word) Kicking Machine” and I am going to encourage all of us to go ahead and turn that off or at least lower the setting. Here is why: Recovery is tough, it is not just about your will, or trying harder, or being a better person, it is much bigger than that. Most will find that it is a dance of several steps forward and then a couple steps back.